In 1988, President Ronald Reagan had proclaimed the whole month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. In 2006, Congress supported Ms. Bear’s proposal to create one day of remembrance in the middle of that month because, as stated in their resolution, “each year, approximately one million pregnancies in the United States end in miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of a newborn baby.”
Unlike the terms “widow” and “orphan,” no one word describes a woman who has lost a child. Without a simple term, the loss often goes unsaid. Unless you wear a T-shirt emblazoned with your children’s names or tattoo them on your wrist, you rarely speak their names aloud no matter how much you need or want to tell others. And for women who have struggled with pregnancy loss, there seems even less place to mention the love they feel for babies they will never have.
Please light a candle from 7pm to 8pm in your time zone and with this wave of light we can remember those children whose brief time with us have touched our lives forever.